The spirit of the Priory and how to use it

This article is the first of two outlining both the spiritual and practical aspects of the Priory and how best to benefit from your time here. The second article will cover ceremonial.

If we are to talk about the spirit of the Priory and how to use it, where can we say it starts and ends? When we put our foot across the threshold do we inhabit a different mind? Is the rest of our life separate to how we are in the temple? In what way does meditation flow in to all we do? These are just four questions of the many that can arise when considering this issue.

A good starting point would be to understand why the Priory exists. What is it’s purpose and how is that purpose fulfilled? Firstly it is a refuge for those who wish to or have undertaken a meditation practice and would like to take it deeper. The Priory helps in sustaining practice and point the way. Everything about the place helps us all to remember and keep true to the life of meditation and the precepts. So when we enter the building, the aspects of gratitude and respect are already active. As individuals this is what we offer to all beings, and it helps in allowing us to know our true life. Implicit in coming to a Buddhist temple is a wish for the teaching, in whatever form it comes. This humility helps bring out the harmony in the sangha, and this refuge taking in each other helps to mature our practice. Buddha, Dharma and Sangha are all present at one and the same time, and are active.

When we first come to practice we are shown how to meditate first. This is important, because it shows us that this is the important thing and everything flows from this. It’s not a matter of buiding up to it, but we are shown that each moment is complete in itself. Before that though even, as we enter a temple for the first time, we are probably shown to put our shoes straight. This is sometimes verbally but quite often through example. On the face of it a straightfroward act, and it may not always click with us the spiritual importance of such an act. For me it was and remains a vital aspect of religous life which constantly teaches. At one and the same time it is a basic teaching yet also shows us that we never get away from practicing the basics, and that they stop becoming basics, (in our minds), and are ever present truths. For myself putting the shoes straight is not always a self conscious act and yet I am aware that this is what I am doing. It is like breathing, I know when I am not doing it. When we learn the importance of doing this many other aspects of temple life fall in to place. Offering a candle, putting our sitting equipment away tidily or making the tea are just three examples. How to be in a temple is not formulaic. It is different for all of us, yet something is expressed which also speaks of a shared sincerity. This can also be seen in how different Priors express the teaching. Slightly varying approaches inevitably affect how a place functions, yet it will be in line with root of the teaching and show us that we don’t have to squeeze into a straight jacket to be able to be there. All of us have our particularities and these don’t need to be an obstacle even if we may feel sometimes to be out of step with the majority. Yet, if we come with an agenda and try to sway others to our point of view, I would say that is an example where there could be a potential issue that would need addressing. Even if pointed out it is still down to us to do something about our behaviour. To see and acknowledge in our hearts that the harmomy of the sangha is being disturbed.

Stepping forward is another expression of practice. To freely offer is a gift and received with gratitude. (I will cover this more fully in part two). However small it may seem it is noticed and appreciated. It is a joy to see somebody come forth and offer. This could be in making tea for everyone, lighting candles before meditation or a service or offering to be chaplain or precentor (both cermonial roles). Because we are deeply interconnected these acts make a significant difference and the merit of the offering resounds throughout the temple and beyond. Initially we may come to training to do something about ourselves, (which remains true), yet we all receive the merit of another’s offering. Our wholehearted effort is an encouragement to others and points up the potential in us all to awaken.

An important and maybe obvious area to look at is the role of the Prior and one’s relationship to that priest. The Prior’s role first and foremost is to sit still within the body of the temple and do his or her practice. Everything comes forth from there. The everything being keeping the doors open, (spirituall and physically),offering an expansive welcome  to all who come, protecting and offering the dharma, and all that is inbetween. In conversation recently somebody told me not to forget that people come because there is a monk resident. Some people prefer to keep that monk at arms length and others wish for a more close association. My vow is to look with the eye of a buddha and see a buddha. Whether you have just walked through the door or have been coming for some time the essential buddha nature is there to be trusted. Nevertheless it is natural that if I get to know someone on more than a passing level the relationship will reflect that. In a way the Prior is a sponge who is able to soak up spillages and messes, gently and with no fuss and , vitally, not create one of their own. The teachers role here to is show harmony so that others may see its value. I believe it is important for us all to keep our antenna alert because the teaching can come in less obvious ways and to be open to receiving that dharma even when it shows something about ourselves which we would rather not acknowledge just now.

So to sum up, the Priory is here for you when you need it. Treat it with respect and gratitude, and what it has to offer will be available for you. Offer up yourselves, and by that I mean that hard, resisting and obstinate self which can want things in a certain way, and all beings will receive the merit of your actions.

Offering of the Buddhas

The Festival of the Buddha’s Birth is the biggest and most important throughout the buddhist world. It is also seen seen as a celebration of the enlightenment and death of the Buddha as well. What is it in this that is significant to us as practitioners. In other words what is it pointing to that can be helpful for us in this moment.

Shayamuni’s offering to the world was to show a way out of the cyclical nature of suffering by awakening to how things are and not clinging to the mind creations which obscure our vision. By showing us in the Jatakamala stories his past existences, we are shown that through many acts of letting go and selfless behaviour we can see that as we let go moment by moment it is possible to live from a lighter place which is less cluttered with the consequences of clinging. Through this regular practice we also come to see that what we are really isn’t just the surface appearance of a human being as normally seen by the world. As we do this there is the rebirth of a less encumbered person. Karma is converted and transformed. It is gently cleansed, and past obstructions, which hitherto we couldn’t see past, no longer hinder our freedom.

In Buddhism there is the world of no birth and no death. What is it that truly lives and doesn’t die?. What can truly be relied upon that is much than this body which will perish soon enough? To connect with that which sits. That which returns home in meditation, and resides in it’s natural place. I believe a key to this is to see the beginngless and endless nature of life. In the Kyojukaimon it says, ‘Enlightenment is Eternal and is even now‘. By coming to realise the interconnectedness of all things we know that to divide is a harmful act which turns away from an understanding of what is a natural wisdom.

Looking at the Ancestral Line,( the succession of Masters who have transmitted theTruth), we see six Buddhas before Shakyamuni. After the last name there is the empty red line which winds it’s way back to the empty circle from which all appears. There is an obvious linearity in this in a way but what it’s showing is that teaching finds it’s particularilty in the time it’s taught so that it can be heard, yet what is taught is not restricted by boundaries and exists at one and the same time. Beyond the three existences. Each moment is complete and undivided.

The offering of the Buddhas, as we celebrate the birth of the Buddha is to acknowledge the potential of all beings to awaken to the Truth.The significance of the children to the ceremony is to show the potential of all beings to awaken. They hold their lotus buds and place them in the water before ladling the baby buddha with water. These buds if allowed to grow will become full grown lotus flowers, a symbol of enlightenment, which will still have their roots in the mud. Something we can’t escape, and nor should we try.

What Buddha is isn’t born and doesn’t die or become enlightened. It is expressed through forms which are empty of any permanat or substantial self. To come to know this dissolving through meditation practice we see that what is left is the natural arising of love, compassion and wisdom which transcends any particular view. It just is. So let us all drop what we think we are and take seven steps, like the baby buddha, and trust our potential, otherwise how can we awaken to the undivided nature.

Letting go of health

When I first came to practice I was intrigued when I heard that training was a process of getting ready to die well. It was saying that everything I did from now on was a preparation for a good death. At the time I sort of knew I could die at anytime, (my experiences ending up in hospital after being knocked off my bike(s) led me to see how fragile and vulnerable this body can be),but was I living fully this way? If I was about to die at any time was I prepared to let go of life? Could I give it up when the time came? A tall order you may say. Perversly, the deeper the letting go is and the more we penetrate impermanance, with it comes a stronger sense of wanting to live.

Conversations these days can focus on health issues. Understandable as we grow older and the body and mind shows signs of becoming less able. The exchange of tales from visits to the doctor, nurse and hospital appointments and the  different therapies that are advocated and we try to implement are exchanged. When we get ill with something that is a bit beyond the normal aches and pains which we are all prone to it can focus the mind and one naturally hones in on these issues. To look after our minds and bodies is of course good and a sign of respect to that which we have and can use for good. Training can take will and effort. Indeed the meal time scripture says ‘We eat lest we become lean and die’. However hard we keep up an exercise regime or eat healthily we will still die. To keep fit and healthy is good but let us not create a falsehood, a permanancy, a delusion. It is so easy to overdo it and strive towards a perfection that is always out of reach. The next best diet, the upgrade of an exercise program. It is so easy to be diverted from the important matter. The mind seems to be so good at creating illusions, of showing us a potential life outside of what is.There is indeed a middle way which is neither holding on or pushing away.

Much of my monastic work has been around chronic illness and seeing how people learn to be with what can be a difficult adjustment to make. The body and mind deterioates and we become more and more dependent on others in ways that are new to us. In all of this something can and does shine through and light up a room. ‘The light of insight shines forth’. When we can see from meditation, illness and death are transformed and compassion for this impermanat body and mind manifests. A compassionate sees that we are not seperate. Although ill and the body is breaking down what we really are is not harmed. It shows that enlightenment is ever present. Letting go is all important in all we do. We are free to be ill and free to die. there is nothing to hold onto, not life itself. Being healthy when we are able, is good, let us not allow it to become a solid permanant self. Let go fully and return to the source. We may not know why we are on this earth, but we can know what we need to do as our bodies leave it.

Rev. Gareth

My Pure Land will not be destroyed

This small article is based around ‘The Immeasaurable Life of the Tathagata’ which is a chapter from the Lotus Sutra. In a nutshell it deals with the role of doubt in our practice, or another way of putting it is, what is there to believe in? The Buddha talks of ‘always abiding here, and ‘yet appears as extinct‘. How can we have faith in what appears as extinct and yet are told that it is always here? So to me  it is talking about faith in the practice or trusting the process. To sit and let go of all we believe, and trust in what we can’t fully see. It becomes a case of dropping the confusion by us not getting in the way and allowing that which needs to be seen and heard a chance to be seen and heard. As the Scripture says ‘confused creatures not see me though I am near’. This is talking about trusting and allowing doubts to fall away by turning towards doubt. The Buddha then appears proclaiming the Dharma. He appears to those who, ‘wholeheartedly yearn to see the Buddha‘. When fully acknowledged and accepted doubt shows itself as truth.

Doubt is just a cloud drifting across our vision. Enightenment is ever present. Beyond the human realm enlightenment is not restricted. Being beyond our conceptions, (however grand they may be), whatever we think it is that is not it. From my experience, (such as it is), it doesn’t come in the form of answers to questions as such but comes about through living and breathing the life of the meditation and the precepts. How we live and act. As Dogen said ‘Training and Enightenment are one’. Living in accord with the Precepts is enlightened action.

Elsewhere in the Scripture it talks of ‘Under bejewelled trees, heavy with blossoms and fruit, may these beings take their delight and play‘ and ‘My Pure Land will not be destroyed, though sentient beings may see it as utterly consumed by fire‘. It is tempting to look for bejewelled trees, pleasant though that may seem, and not see them for what they are. Yet again we can fall into the trap of conception and not see the bejewelled tees because they aren’t what we are expecting. Seeing the jewel in our lives, as it is. The eye of compassion can see confusion as something to embrace not turn away from and shun. All is one and all is different. Compassion naturaly arises.

Thoughts and feelings are the effects of past actions, they don’t need to hinder us. Equanimity seems to be consumed by fire yet the Pure Land is not destroyed by appearances. When we closely look isn’t all well in that very moment. This is ‘Abiding on Vulture Peak’ in the Scripture. To know there is suffiency. I know it took me quite a while to understand and not confuse this with adequecy. Sufficient is what we always have been and are.

Enlightenment isn’t something we have or don’t have. It is ever present, beginning less and end less. It is all. It is the natural state that can be awakened to. This is why when we open up,  it seems like coming home. The natural residing place of body and mind. Non action and non seeking is practice, not the casting aside of practice which implies one is seeking by casting aside. Why name it? It is everything and nothing in particular. Trust the process and know it is there, let it reveal itself. Trust the Buddha when he says ‘My Pure Land will not be destroyed

The quotes from The Immeasurable Life of the Tathagata are from Buddhist Writings, published by Shasta Abbey.

This article is a shortened version of a talk given at Reading Buddist Priory.

Rev. Gareth

 

Giving and receiving

There is a saying, ‘Serving and being served are folds in the same garment’. I think it might be Chinese but is , to me, of unknown origin. As I settle in to my new role here I’m finding it particularly pertinent. It seems to hinge around gratitude and humility.

For all of us the notion of charity can raise different issues. For example what is worthy of our time and money?. Or questioning whether in fact a blade of grass or a handful of sand can be seen as enough. Indeed Dogen in the Shushogi talks of building a bridge as an act of charity. He makes no distinction between making a profit or not, just that it benfits others. All sorts of weighing up take place and deeds are placed on the scales. Here I would like to focus on the koan of giving and receiving. If we do something freely and are thanked, how often do we find ourselves shunning the thanks because we feel that by doing so we are less likely to fall into the trap of pride. or perhaps more damagingly be seen as having pride. Due to our backgrounds this can fall anywhere along the spectrum causes and conditions make. We don’t need thanks for doing what seems good to do, do we? We don’t do it for that reason, do we? Well no probably not, but let’s see it from another angle. Is there not gratitude and giving  in allowing anothers heartfelt offering to be accepted. The saying, ‘It is not about me yet I am involved’ comes to mind. Undeniably we as individuals give, we put ourselves out there, but what really gives and accepts? The life of a renunciate lay or monk sees that by giving up our own desires we can allow a free flowing exchange of gratitude. So when someone offers to do something for us the acceptance of that offering is indeed a fold in the same garment. What brings forth the wish to offer is not seperate to that which accepts. Surely by allowing ourselves to experience the joy of serving we open up to a world, a way of being, which fully encompasses a generosity of spirit which acknow;ledges anothers wish to give. Indeed to let go of our desire to be seen a certain way, i.e. one who displays no pride, is a stepping forth into the way of the buddhas and ancestors. The way of the ancients which has no time and is ever present. The same ever present which is truly who we  and all things are.

The use of the term garment is also helpful in appreciating what I am trying to say here. A garment tends to enfold just as a kesa, and by natural extension a wagesa, which represents the buddhist precepts enfolding us. Each morning we wrap ourselves in the precepts which point us in the direction of perpetual practice. Each fold of the kesa expresses a generosity of spirit.

So as we sit, each day finding out what it is that is asked, we are both serving  and being served, realising that both are happening simultaneously. However hard it is for us to receive help, by turning our backs we make it harder to give and receive. All things, all dharmas come forth unhindered. Everything teaches. Each moment arising is an opportunity to allow ourselves to hear. If ‘I’ receive, the point is missed and vice versa. When experienced from the seat of meditation what is good to do shows itself. There then is a following which can twist and turn as it plays out. All comes from the same root. All enfolded in the same garment.

Rev. Gareth

Letting go of letting go

Something I encounter a fair bit when speaking to people who are practicing, is an anxiety over completely letting go. It isn’t that the wish isn’t there but a worry over what is beyond. Where am I going to be when that step is taken? Can I deal with the unknown? Giving up completely means letting go of the very things which we can most cherish, that which identifies us as us. Part of the anxiety is reflected in that we have no control over when it will happen and will we recognise it when it arises?. I suppose the koan can be summarised as ‘How do I completly let go and yet still function?’

Buddhism is about living a good life, doing as little harm as possible in any given moment. It is about being considerate and valuing the earth’s resources. Yes, all of these things and yet it is beyond all of this as well.

Unsurprisingly conversations these days soon come around to Donald Trump, Brexit and the rise of the far right among other issues which can cloud our thoughts. I’m picking up a lot of anger and despair around these topics from fellow sangha members. How can we square this with how we ground and live our lives.

Donald Trump, his allies and others who we may not agree with are not seperate from Buddha Nature. Essentially we are not seperate from them. Their true nature is undivided and therefore fundamentally there is that of us which is also of them. All is one and all is different. Indeed we can’t any longer talk of us and them. We may hold differnt views and there is no problem with this and yet to completely let go is to see beyond good and evil, right and wrong, the holy and the unholy. These views we disagree with must surely be held in meditation as we hold our own opinions and views, which if not seen clearly can also cause harm to self and others. Just because we can’t see something doesn’t mean it’s not there. Just sitting in the very heart of what arises who is there to let go. It just goes..Causes and conditions filter our perceptions. Yes, we can still function but from a different place where our relationship those and that around us has moved. Before we judge others to harshly let us try dropping our own habit forming views and do the best we can to awaken to the undivided nature of the universe.

Rev. Gareth

What is Great Compassion?

This is by way of a farewell offering from Rev Jishin to the Reading and South-east Sangha.  The Buddhist scriptures referred to can be found at www.throssel.org.uk under Dharma Teachings; downloads.

I think we all have experience of compassion arising with a truer, profound view of something.  How that functions, I do not know, although there are threads to follow at times in the mind.  More often, there is a degree of cluelessness.

I do know that I must keep a gentle and bright tone and be dead honest with myself, if I am even to begin in Serene Reflection meditation and practice, each day.  This is Avalokiteshwara to me.

Zen meditation, “Serene Reflection”, holds a direction.  The direction is towards the wisdom of the Heart.  This is just one way of describing, but the important point is that of a direction: one must sit still with intention, engagement, and be ready to see and let go superficial and subtle ideas and notions. These are not “wrong”, they simply get in the way of something more real.   One must not believe subtle doubt; nor undermine oneself by thinking that there is no goal.  One cannot jump to the goal of goallessness (Dogen’s Rules for Meditation); nor incidentally jump by thinking there is no direction.  The direction is-as it were-below thinking.

Great Compassion is joined to this direction (or movement, if you prefer.)

Great compassion (or the whole of Avalokiteshwara Bodhisattva) lies within all, within everyone.  It is real.  We can say that fundamentally we are Avalokiteshwara.  It is as part of life, whether we recognise it at the moment, or not. The nature of Great Compassion is described in Buddhist scriptures:

A)  When recited or read, the Scripture of Avalokiteshwara Bodhisattva shows us the actualisation of great compassion.  It draws great compassion from the well within us; not just a feeling, but the prompt towards the activity of the Three Pure Precepts: cease from all harm; do good; purify the heart.  This is truely wonderful and real.    The Litany of the Great Compassionate One is a devotional and also an invocational scripture.

The One Who hears the cries of the world.

B)  The Scripture of Great Wisdom (Heart Sutra) points towards another feature of Great compassion, which begins, “When one with deepest wisdom of the heart that is beyond discriminative thought, the Holy Lord, Great Kanzeon bosatsu, knew that………….”   Here, Kanzeon is

                              The One Who sees (knows) without obstruction. I.e. without division, distortion or projection; beyond desire and fear. Beyond filters.

So, here we have great compassion joined to great wisdom!  “Kanzeon is the mother and father of all the Buddhas” ( Dogen,Shobogenzo, Chapter 33: Kannon).

The still ground of gentleness and compassion we come to through training enables us to turn and face all that arises. There is a shift to entrusting ourselves to this way of training and we come to seeing/knowing more clearly.  This is vast and marvelous; beyond imagining.

I hope these words are a helpful reminder to you to not carry a superficial idea of compassion or, worst still, view it is a box to be ticked.  We should practice not slipping back into usual or sloppy thinking.  Have Avalokiteshwara right there with you in all circumstance.  Then you can begin to realise its nature, and rely on it. We are more than we think.

May all beings realise the Truth. In gassho, Jishin.

The mix of alternating great compassion and the Bodhisattva Avalokiteshwara or Kanzeon is deliberate.

 

Tenderness

The Shushogi is a 19th century compilation, originally for the Japanese laity, of some of Great Master Dogen’s works. Chapter 4 is entitled ‘Awakening to the mind of the Bodhisattva’. The chapter is about the four wisdoms of charity, tenderness, benevolence and sympathy. I would like to concentrate on tenderness, mainly because it can appear to be an undervalued part of zen practice. This may be partly, I think, to an over dependence on or misreading of the koan collections in zen. Although in many cases they describe actions that come from a deep well of compassion, the many cases of raised fists, shouts, punches and kicks which are used to shake the student free of ingrained ways of behaviour and thinking can be misunderstood  when not seen from the perspective of a master/disciple relationship or even a cultural context. This can lead to wrong action rooted in a self which rather than being transformed becomes an endless cycle of similar behaviour.

Here is what Dogen has to say from the Shushogi:

‘By praising those who exhibit virtue, and feeling sorry for those who do not, our enemies become our friends and they who are our friends have their friendship strenghtened: this is all through the power of tenderness. Whenever one speaks kindly to another their face brtightens and their heart is warmed; if a kind word be spoken in his absence, the impression will be a deep one: tenderness can have a revolutionary impact upon the mind of man.’

 

All this can seem obvious and straight forward yet within practice and for sincere and genuine reasons we can easily judge others efforts. We can believe ourselves to be in the right and that we can put them right if only what others did would reflect itself in what we do ourselves. To give a kindly smile or word can to some of us at any particular time seem a bit lax or insipid and a sterner countenance is needed. Well maybe it is, but it can still arise from tenderness and compassion. I don’t believe Dogen is talking about just being nice but he is saying be gentle.

Tenderness can be seen and experienced when we know there is nothing to hold onto or gain. Tenderness is comfortable in its true home where it can roam freely within the precepts. With good strong roots tenderness can bend with the wind rather than snap or get blown away. If we can sit with open hands and a generous heart, the begging bowl that is this body/mind, and can accept all that is placed in it, this then is a charitable act, a tender act, a benevolent act and a sympathetic act, to ourselves as well as others. To look and see tenderly is to know that all is soft and yielding yet may have the appearance of being hard and unforgiving. Whilst we may not see fully and clearly see, it shouldn’t put us off taking steps to do so. We all have the potential to awaken to the mind of the bodhisattva.

Rev. Gareth Milliken

Shushogi from Zen is Eternal Life                                                                                        Rev. Master Jiyu Kennett                                                                                                   Shasta Abbey Press

Do you have a recipe for success?

Life is full of seeming contradiction.   On the one hand, for instance, we know that nothing stays the same and everything is impermanent.  On the other hand, we also know that what we do has results; there is cause and effect.

So whilst on the impermanence thread, we may think there is nothing to care for too much as none of it is going to persist.  On the cause and effect thread, we may see that it matters very much what we do, think, etc.  Two opposing views- when all we want is a simple recipe for conducting one’s life…e.g. do things matter or don’t they?

There is something “dead in the water” about asking for a recipe, a solution, a “how” question about achieving successful living.

Is Buddhism a recipe for improving one’s lot, placating suffering or changing oneself?  Not exactly.  And yet these are almost always the conscious or semi-conscious driving force behind our choosing to meditate and being mindfully aware through the day; speaking kindly and following the Precepts.

A recipe is about having necessary ingredients and a method in order to produce something which is predictable/tangible…an end result, a goal.  We are the do-ers.

I am not saying that our lives are not changed for the better through Buddhism.  I want to suggest that the approach is much more to do with exploration and experience and responding in the moment…a fluid movement, more intimate with the flowing of all things.  For here lies something worth arriving in.

Rather than a recipe, you’d do better to ask for medicine.  And let it work on you.

The medicine of Buddhist teaching or dharma in the Zen tradition in general, and at Reading Buddhist Priory, is given in small doses.  We trust that it will work on us. This does not rule out thinking about it, musing on it; but we need not delineate // fix it // nail it to the wall, for this must move with us, as does all things.

Rev. Jishin.

PS  If you absolutely need something solid to go on right now:  Yes, absolutely, it does matter!

Where do we begin? With right speech.

Here are extracts from an article by Rev. Oriana LaChance, who is Prior at Eugene Buddhist Priory, Oregon, USA.  The full article can be found in the Newsletter, www.eugenebuddhistpriory.org

Where do we begin? With right speech.

“Before you speak, ask yourself: Does it improve on the silence?”
Charles Bock, from Alice and Oliver, 2016

………….Hatred and hate speech are directed toward “the other,” whomever that other might be. Increasingly, “the other” is anybody who does not feel, look, worship, adhere to the same ideas, the same sexual orientation, have the same culture or history as I. If I view “the other” in this way, my world of the acceptable is a very narrow world–in fact, a self-imposed prison.

How do those of us who take refuge in Buddha, Dharma, and Sangha navigate this not-so-brave new world? What can we bring to it that is of benefit to ourselves and others?
Eight centuries ago, our ancestor Great Master Dogen spoke to his disciples about the bodhisattva’s four methods of guidance—one of them is kind speech:

Kind speech means that when you see sentient beings, you arouse the heart of compassion and offer words of loving care. It is contrary to cruel or violent speech. . . . Praise those with virtue; pity those without it. If kind speech is offered, little by little kind speech expands. Thus, even kind speech that is not ordinarily known or seen comes into being. Be willing to practice it for this entire present life; do not give up, world after world, life after life. Kind speech is the basis for reconciling rulers and subduing enemies. Those who hear kind speech from you have a delighted expression and a joyful mind. Those who hear of your kind speech will be deeply touched; they will always remember it.

(from “The Bodhisattva’s Four Methods of Guidance,” Treasury of the True Dharma Eye, edited by Kazuaki Tanahashi, Shambhala, p. 475).

You would like to know where to begin? Deeply explore your own divisive speech, whether you talk against a family member, neighbor, co-worker, politician. Divisive speech separates us, leads to “me” and “them,” “us” and “the other.”

In the Anguttara Nikaya, Book of the Fives, the Buddha presents five conditions to investigate before speaking:

(1) Do I speak at the right time and place, or not?
(2) Do I speak the truth, or not?
(3) Do I speak gently or harshly?
(4) Do I speak beneficial words, or not?
(5) Do I speak with a kindly heart, or not?

According to these five conditions, the Buddha encourages us to speak only when it is the right time and place, when it is true, when it is kind, when it is helpful, and when we speak out of good will. If our words do not meet each of these five conditions, then it is time to be silent. In this way, we are encouraged to let go of our small concerns and to embrace a wider, more universal community of imperfect beings just like ourselves.

Please, can each one of us do our best to refrain from hate speech, putdowns, gossip, rudeness, boasting, and speaking as if we know it all. And can we refrain from believing that our opinions and views are not only our reality (dubious enough) but should be reality for everyone else as well. This seems to me a good place to begin.

In gassho, Rev. Oriana